Every once in a while, I like to check in with myself and reflect on how things are going in various aspects of life. One of my favourite check-ins is a pie chart based on the one from Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way (57). Her pie only has 6 slices. I extend that and do one with 8. Then I reflect on my strengths and weaknesses in each area. It can help me then make some goals for the coming months.
Family/children: Score 7
-J and I are both on the same page re: family being a priority which makes us a good team together.
-Our kids are fabulous.
-I need to figure out new strategies to help C through this terrible 2s/pushing phase.
-I need to figure out how to get Q to sleep through the night.
Romance/adventure: Score 3
-J and I both work to show each other we are a priority. J especially makes an effort lately.
-We work on our problems and try to fight/discuss respectfully.
-It is hard to get one-on-one time together and when we do sometimes I am so tired it is hard to take proper advantage of it.
Friends/connections: Score 3
-I am getting out and trying to meet moms in Coquitlam.
-I am still actively close with one girlfriend.
-I have acquaintances in Coquitlam but not friends.
-It’s hard to find energy/time to get into Vancouver to see my friends.
Motivation/energy/inspiration(spirituality): Score 6
-Before I would feel I had to do lots of different hobbies but actually allowing myself to just focusing on one (writing) has felt really great and has increased my motivation.
-Lack of sleep means it is difficult to be motivated. It becomes the battle of sleep or write…and sleep often wins out.
Exercise/healthy living: Score 7
-I’ve been working out for sure twice a week and going on extensive walks at least twice a week.
-I still binge snack in the evenings and “need” that little something sweet at night.
-Ice-cream (especially Blizzards), chocolate, potato chips, Smartpop, chocolate pudding…
Finances: Score 5
-We’ve both been students so we know how to live frugally while on mat leave pay.
-We don’t like living frugally
Work: Score 9
-Right now work is being a homemaker and I feel really on top of it currently. The house is not a total dive (usually), there are nutritious-ish meals every day, and I make time to play and go on adventures with my kids every day.
-The detailed aspects of housecleaning aren’t really happening (i.e. dusting and deep cleaning) but care factor is also low.
Me time/professional development: Score 4
-I’ve been led to some neat resources so far this year (Poem-a-day challenge blog, word press on-line course, critique group, useful books)
-More sleep is needed to have more focus and less inclination to just fall on the couch in front of the TV once kids are in bed.
1) Get Toddler book out of the library and make time to read it.
2) Set up a Sunday dinner with friends in Van once every two months.
3) Proper date night with J (with wine and conversation) at least every two weeks.